COMPASSION AT WORK

FOUR PHASES OF THE PROGRAMME

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OVERVIEW

 

GET READY - PREPARING THE GROUND

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  • Pre-course diagnostic meeting with me - to explore what are you longing to cultivate where you work and hear about what I am offering  and where the twain shall meet.

  • Pre-course reading:  I recommend these two books so support a knowledge base for the work we will undertake.  Marshall Rosenberg's book is also available as an audio book on youtube, ya can listen to it in the car!:

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  • Coffee and Compassion - I offer a free introductory morning where I come to meet you all, and begin the trust process with me.  This is my offering so that you can check if you would like to invest your time and resources in this work

  • Time commitment is 4 1/2 days spanning over four months

  • Those who join do so through free choice and out of  curiosity and as much wholehearted willingness as possible.

  • This work is 'counter culture', inviting us to soften our reactivity and live wholeheartedly through vulnerability.  It is not about conflict resolution, not a platform for mediation of current troubles.  This is an offering, that with time and commitment will create an ecology where everyone's needs matter and through that alchemy everyone feels free to innovate, contribute and risk to bring the best results for any group project.

  • The HOW of it: I bring this work through group workshops using practical exercises, discussion groups, sharings, and time for contemplation.  I hope you will call me in to bring the ways and means towards wholehearted living so that you can be authentic, wherever you find yourself and bring what it is you want to contribute to your work.  This is 'embodied' work and the most resilient people are connected to their body (ref. Brene Brown/Viktor Frankl)

A Language Of Life By Marshall Rosenberg
Dare To Lead by Brene Brown

Brave Work,

Tough Conversations,

Whole Hearts

Behind every action however ineffective, tragic, violent or abhorrent to us is an attempt to meet a need.

 

PHASE 1

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A Declaration Of Interdependence

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Workplace  Relationships - Visioning Board - Where are we going from - to?

Exploring the origins of blame and meeting it's antidote

The Language and Consciousness of Compassion

Down-regulating defensiveness (what is 'reactivity')

There's no such thing as 'negative emotions' or 'unwanted thoughts'

Understanding the purpose of needs (aka longings values)

The role of needs in relationship

What is trust

Cultivating trust through vulnerability

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PHASE 2

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The Power Of Empathy

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Empathic medicine - the prescription details (the most powerful connecting and trust building tool we have)

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What empathy isn't - the intrusion that 'helping' can be

Don't just 'do' something, be there - the role of  fixing/sorting/analysing/

Self - Response - Ability  through the portal of  empathy

Nobody can 'make' you feel anything

Intention in Connection

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PHASE 3

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Honesty Without Harm

From

Giving a Piece Of Your Mind to Speaking A Piece Of Your Heart

"Never believe what someone else thinks about you"  Marshall Rosenberg

The skill of making requests to make life wonderful for all

Self Worth - You Matter

Authenticity Transparency and Showing Up

Feeling relaxed in relationship

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PHASE 4

Maintaining A Compassionate Ecology

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Understanding Choice

What gets in the way of imagining we have choice

Powerful Boundaries

Flattening The Power Structure

Maintaining a compassionate ecology - revisiting the vision board

Resilience Through Self Generated Compassion

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FROM

THE ADVERSARIAL CYCLE

'Making Sense' of things through judging others

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Blaming others and fault finding

 

 

Self Criticism

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Responding through reactivity

 

 

Defensiveness

 

 

Fighting for our needs from a place of scarcity

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Hustling for power over each other

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Strategies through compromise

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Shame and shaming

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Honesty motivated by shame anger or fear

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Experiencing pain by how others treat us

 

 

Discharging Emotions

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Mistrust, doubt and uncertainty

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Managing ‘unwanted’ behaviours

 

 

Get over it/let it go

 

 

Organisational Hierarchy

 

 

'Hooked’ by certain behaviours

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People pleasing and diminishing ourselves in order to belong and stay 'safe'

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Vulnerability as weakness

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THE TRUST CYCLE

'Making Sense' of things through empathic connection with self and others

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Self response-ability and generous assumptions of others

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Self acceptance through empathic resonance

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Responding through choice, personal power, authenticity and transparency

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Self responsibility and authenticity. Allowing ourselves to be impacted by life

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Creatively discovering strategies where everybody's needs matter

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Power with each other

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Strategies through needs based dialogue

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Supporting Self worth and worthiness through the skill of empathy

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Honesty motivated by authenticity, transparency and connection

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Understanding and respecting our vulnerability and teaching others how we would like to be treated

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Fully sensing emotions as a pathway to self understanding and growth of connection and belonging

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Growing trust through reciprocal vulnerability over time

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Modelling and cultivating ways of being in alignment with your values

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Respect for the truth of everyone’s experience. Self kindness and kindness to others

 

Flattening the hierarchy through interdependence and collaboration

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Knowing when we are ‘hooked’ and having choice in how we respond

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Cultivating mutual respect through boundary setting. Belonging through self acceptance and self worth

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Vulnerability as the portal for trust belonging, creativity and connection