COMPASSION AT WORK
A DECLARATION OF INTERDEPENDENCE
CREATING A CULTURE OF TRUST
THROUGH THE PRACTICE OF EMOTIONAL ATTUNEMENT
"Trust is not built in big moments or through grand gestures. Trust is the stacking and layering of small moments of reciprocal vulnerability over time. Trust and vulnerability go together. We need to trust to be vulnerable and we need to be vulnerable to trust."
Shame, Vulnerabilty and Wholeheartedness Researcher
If you and those you work with would like to be in an environment where creativity, innovation, authenticity and courage thrive, you are going to have to get vulnerable with each other. Vulnerability is the birthplace for all of these things. Watch this video by Brene Brown who has researched the subject for over twenty years. But why am I talking to you about vulnerability? Because we build trust through emotional attunement, through reciprocal vulnerability, we create belonging and connection and all those 'positive' feelings we long for. As humans we are hard wired for this experience and we thrive on THE WARMTH OF RELATIONAL CONNECTION. The intention of this programme is to build trust through the skills of empathy and emotional attunement and through this to support the wellbeing of all. Our culture has taught us the opposite, it has taught us defensiveness, protection and not to 'feel'.
THERE IS AN ANTIDOTE
The antidote to judging, blaming and fault finding is compassion. Self compassion and compassion for others. That's it, that's all, and it takes some doing! This programme will support you to grow these skills in your working environment.
It isn't easy to downregulate one's own defensiveness. Yet this is the only skill through which trust can be cultivated. The tool to soften and downregulate defensiveness is empathy. And so this programme provides the container within which to take time to practice the skills of empathic resonance and emotional attunement. It is based on the principles of Nonviolent Communication, however, it is not about conflict resolution. It is about sowing the seeds of an ecosystem where trust can thrive and therefore makes conflict less likely. Trust increases relationship resilience and makes interactions easier and less costly.
This offering approaches the life force within an organisation from the inside out. The inside of each person and the inside of the ecosystem that grows between people who gather together for a particular purpose. Whoever you are reading this, wherever you sit within a workplace, you are biologically hardwired for love belonging and connection. This aspect of who you are cannot be shut down the moment you cross the threshold into the workplace. So if you want to be fully human wherever you are, if you want to live wholeheartedly and authentically, this offering of mine might interest you. If you lead a team and are longing for deeper commitment, creativity, autonomy and innovation and warmth, the cultivation of trust is where hope lies. A definition of hope is The Goal/The Pathway/The Agency. The goal is the cultivation of trust and all that it yields, the pathway is empathy and the agency is the willingness to walk towards the gifts of vulnerability.
There is a reality of interdependence of all things. There is an 'I' in team and it's in the individual essence of each person working together in the ecosystem.
THE TRUST CYCLE
EVERY ACTION IS AN ATTEMPT TO MEET A NEED
EVERY ECOSYSTEM IS INTERDEPENDENT
EVERYONE'S NEEDS MATTER
"Behind every action however ineffective, tragic, violent or abhorrent to us is an attempt to meet a need."
Founder, Nonviolent Communication
Trust and practicing living through the portal of our vulnerability takes time, so this programme spans over four months, one workshop a month. It takes time to grow and practice the skills involved in the building of trust and the so my intention is to provide the container within which to undertake the adventure and experience the growth.
This work is not for the faint hearted. It takes courage and commitment to risk the vulnerability that is needed in order to build trust and live authentically. You will need to really want this and it is likely to trickle into all aspects of your life. But, if vulnerability is the birthplace of authenticity, innovation, creativity and belonging, you might like to give this a go and inject your project with these things. Here is an overview of the programme:
PRICE TAG £ ?
Here's the thing guys. We are in extreme times, we have all been hit by the pandemic in some form. My work is face to face so it crashed, like thousands of other self employed people. Of course I need to make a living and this work has a fee. But, let's talk, let me know what budget you have, if you have one. If you don't, still, let's talk.
All I know is to bring this work is part of my life's blood and I long to bring it. So, pick up the phone and talk to me, if you want this growth in your workplace, we will work something out.
"That part of you that is unique and will never again appear on the earth in this form. The essence of you that senses longing, that drives your passions. That part of you that connects you to everyone and everything else. Soul is at the centre of your life force, your relationships and at the centre of your work. Something in us wants to endure beyond retained earnings, and that something is your soul."
Ref: Tom Chappell
'The Soul Of A Business'
Co-Founder Toms Of Maine