OUR SOULS AT WORK

A DECLARATION OF INTERDEPENDENCE

4 DAY PROGRAMME FOR THE WORKPLACE

It isn't easy to downregulate one's own defensiveness.  Yet this is the only skill through which trust can be cultivated.   The tool to soften and downregulate defensiveness is empathy.  And so this workshop based offering provides the container within which to take time to practice the skills of empathic resonance and emotional attunement. It is based on the principles of Nonviolent Communication, however, it is not about conflict resolution.  It is about sowing the seeds of an ecosystem where trust can thrive and therefore makes conflict less likely. Trust increases relationship resilience and makes interactions easier and less costly.

 

This offering approaches the life force within an organisation from the inside out.  The inside of each person and the inside of the ecosystem that grows between people who gather together for a particular purpose. Whoever you are reading this, wherever you sit within a workplace, you are biologically hardwired for love belonging and connection. This aspect of who you are cannot be shut down the moment you cross the threshold into the workplace.  So if you want to be fully human wherever you are, if you want to live wholeheartedly and authentically, this offering of mine might interest you. If you lead a team and are longing for deeper commitment, creativity, autonomy and innovation and warmth, the cultivation of trust is where hope lies. A definition of hope is The Goal/The Pathway/The Agency. The goal is the cultivation of trust and all that it yields, the pathway is empathy and the agency is the willingness to walk towards the gifts of vulnerability. 

 

There is a reality of interdependence of all things.  There is an 'I' in team and it's in the individual essence of each person working together in the ecosystem. 

 

 

TRUST

"Trust is not built in big moments or through grand gestures.  Trust is the stacking and layering of small moments and reciprocal vulnerability over time.  Trust and vulnerability go together.  We need to trust to be vulnerable and we need to be vulnerable to trust."

Brene Brown

Shame, Vulnerabilty and Wholeheartedness Researcher

CORE PRINCIPLES

EVERY ACTION IS AN ATTEMPT TO MEET A NEED

EVERY ECOSYSTEM IS INTERDEPENDENT

EVERYONE'S NEEDS MATTER

"Behind every action however ineffective, tragic, violent or abhorrent to us is an attempt to meet a need."

Marshall Rosenberg

Founder, Nonviolent Communication

THE PATHWAY TO CULTIVATING TRUST

FOUR PHASE PROGRAMME

When we build trust through emotional attunement, we create belonging and connection.  As humans we are hard wired for this and experience homeostasis, which thrives on THE WARMTH OF RELATIONAL CONNECTION. The intention of this  programme is to build trust through the skills of empathy and emotional attunement and through this to support wellbeing.  Trust takes time, so this programme spans out through four workshops over four months.  This provides the time to grow and practice the skills involved in the building of trust and the container within which to undertake the adventure and explore findings.

PHASE 1

A Declaration of  Interdependence

PHASE 2

Cultivating Trust

PHASE 3

Honesty Without Harm

PHASE 4

Resilience Through Compassion

EMPATHY

CONNECTION

TRUST

FROM

THE ADVERSARIAL CYCLE

'Making Sense' of things through judging others

Blaming others and fault finding

 

 

Self Criticism

Responding through reactivity

 

 

Defensiveness

 

 

Fighting for our needs from a place of scarcity

Hustling for power over each other

Strategies through compromise

Shame and shaming

 

Honesty motivated by shame anger or fear

 

Experiencing pain by how others treat us

 

 

Discharging Emotions

 

 

Mistrust, doubt and uncertainty

 

Managing ‘unwanted’ behaviours

 

 

Get over it/let it go

 

 

Organisational Hierarchy

 

 

'Hooked’ by certain behaviours

 

People pleasing and diminishing ourselves in order to belong and stay 'safe'

 

Vulnerability as weakness

TO

THE TRUST CYCLE

'Making Sense' of things through empathic connection with self and others

Self response-ability and generous assumptions of others

Self acceptance through empathic resonance

Responding through choice, personal power, authenticity and transparency

Self responsibility and authenticity. Allowing ourselves to be impacted by life

Creatively discovering strategies where everybody's needs matter

Power with each other

 

Strategies through needs based dialogue

Supporting Self worth and worthiness through the skill of empathy

Honesty motivated by authenticity, transparency and connection

 

Understanding and respecting our vulnerability and teaching others how we would like to be treated

Fully sensing emotions as a pathway to self understanding and growth of connection and belonging

Growing trust through reciprocal vulnerability over time

Modelling and cultivating ways of being in alignment with your values

Respect for the truth of everyone’s experience. Self kindness and kindness to others

 

Flattening the hierarchy through interdependence and collaboration

Knowing when we are ‘hooked’ and having choice in how we respond

Cultivating mutual respect through boundary setting. Belonging through self acceptance and self worth

 

Vulnerability as the portal for trust belonging, creativity and connection