THE SELF-COMPASSION BOOK CLUB

What You Say Or Do Next Could Change The World

Thursday 6th January to 10th February 2022 Online Class
(Group 1) 10.00am - 11.30am GMT (Group 2)  6.00pm - 7.30pm GMT

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OVERVIEW

The phrase ‘what you say or do next could change the world’ means everything to me.  If my father, a violent alcoholic, had had this awareness and sense of choice and the capacity to self-soothe and self-regulate, the beautiful souls around him would not have suffered the way they did. 

 

This programme is a series of 6 classes to read and work through the content of Marshall Rosenberg’s book ‘Nonviolent Communication A Language Of Life'. It is one of the foundation stones of my own work and I believe offers an understanding of the conditions and belief systems at the root of violence.

 

It will bring you the opportunity to:

  • anchor within - connect to your needs, in times of difficulty

  • navigate life and relationships from a place of compassion

  • make sense of the root of the pain in your experience of life

  • cultivate the innate skill of self-compassion for which we are hard wired

  • explore the spaciousness within the paradigm of non-duality (no more right or wrong, no more good or bad, no more punishment or reward)

FORMAT OF THE CLASS

Each week the class will contain the following:

A Self-compassion Check-in

Teaching and practice based on the chapter content

Exploration of the content where you share:

the aspects of the chapters that opened and softened you into life

the aspects of the chapters you found challenging to understand or connect with

A Self-compassion Check-out

Class resources are uploaded each week on the resources page

PRE-CLASS READING

WEEK 1 (chapters 1 – 3)

SOFTENING THE URGENCY & DEMAND IN OUR INNER EXPERIENCE

  • What is ‘natural giving and receiving’

  • Identifying the cultural conditioning which blocks compassionate connection with all life

  • Softening the predominant cultural tendency from judgement towards observing all life with compassionate understanding

WEEK 2 (chapters 4 – 6)

EXPRESSING OUR FEELINGS

  • The purpose of fully feeling into our somatic experience (feelings, bodily sensations, thoughts/images) in order to express our experience compassionately and kindly

  • The origin of our somatic experience, how to describe it without inner or outer judgement

  • When a feeling is not a feeling

  • Empowerment through identifying self-responsibility

  • Expressing honesty that when shared with embodied compassion contributes to all life

  • Identifying and requesting that which would make your life wonderful

WEEK 3 (chapter 7)

 

BEING A ‘GOOD’ LISTENER

  • Compassionate listening and receiving - listening to ourselves and others with spaciousness and compassionate awareness for the longings that are uppermost in the present moment

 

WEEK 4 (chapters 8 – 10)

SELF-COMPASSION - THE POWER & ROLE OF VULNERABILITY

  • Hearing a 'yes' behind the 'no' - yours and the others

  • The relationship between the gift of vulnerability and connection

  • The significance of the need for mourning (grief/sadness)

  • The violence of 'shoulds' and 'have to's'

  • The relief that can come when exploring the difference between 'stimulus' and 'cause'

  • The role of anger and how it relates to authenticity and transparency

  • Moving from our habitual response to re-membering our natural response - the role of slowing down in our communication processes

WEEK 5 (chapters 11 – 13)

 

FREEING OURSELVES FROM OLD PROGRAMMING

  • Ending the paradigm of 'punishment & reward'

  • Befriending our inner experience

  • Dissolving the enemy image connected to our internal world

  • Moving from criticism and praise to empathic appreciation

WEEK 6

I am leaving the content of this last class open and will design a teaching/space to support any requests from participants and also as I follow my own intuition as to what is needed at the time.

Dates:

Thursdays:  6th, 13th, 20th and 27th January, 3rd & 10th February 2022

Time: Group 1: 10.00am - 11.30am GMT & Group 2: 6.00pm - 7.30pm GMT

 

Programme Fee: £135.00

Booking For Both Groups Closes 30th December 2021

TESTIMONIALS

A wonderful opportunity for an in-depth exploration of Marshall Rosenberg's challenging work in Nonviolent Compassionate Communication. Clare's personal insight and empathy offers a nurturing space to take risks and find new perspectives toward self-compassion extending toward an affinity with all life."

 

"I find working with you a wonderful safe space to explore feelings (and needs) that have been ignored, forgotten about, can't even be acknowledged. You facilitate an atmosphere in your workshops that is very gentle and you have shown me how to have the courage to sit with myself, my body, my mind just a little bit longer than I really want to. You have shown me that even in what may be just a nanosecond of being with myself, there is insight and relaxation. Your reflections back to workshop attendees have given me a real sense of validation, of recognition. Thank you, Clare"