THE SELF-COMPASSION BOOK CLUB
What You Say Do Or Say Next Could Change The World
Thursday's 11th November to 16th December 2021 Online Class 6.00pm - 7.30pm
The phrase ‘what you say or do next could change the world’ means everything to me. If my father, a violent alcoholic, had had this awareness and sense of choice and the capacity to self-soothe and self-regulate, the beautiful souls around him would not have suffered the way they did.
This programme is a series of 6 classes to read and work through the content of Marshall Rosenberg’s book ‘Nonviolent Communication A Language Of Life'. It is one of the foundation stones of my own work and I believe offers an understanding of the conditions and belief systems at the root of violence.
It will bring you the opportunity to:
anchor within - connect to your needs, in times of difficulty
navigate life and relationships from a place of compassion
make sense of the root of the pain in your experience of life
cultivate the innate skill of self-compassion for which we are hard wired
explore the spaciousness within the paradigm of non-duality (no more right or wrong, no more good or bad, no more punishment or reward)
FORMAT OF THE CLASS
Each week the class will contain the following:
A Self-compassion Check-in
Teaching and practice based on the chapter content
Exploration of the content where you share:
the aspects of the chapters that opened and softened you into life
the aspects of the chapters you found challenging to understand or connect with
A Self-compassion Check-out
WEEK 1 (chapters 1 – 3)
SOFTENING THE URGENCY & DEMAND IN OUR INNER EXPERIENCE
What is ‘natural giving and receiving’
Identifying the cultural conditioning which blocks compassionate connection with all life
Softening the predominant cultural tendency from judgement towards observing all life with compassionate understanding
WEEK 2 (chapters 4 – 6)
EXPRESSING OUR FEELINGS
The purpose of fully feeling into our somatic experience (feelings, bodily sensations, thoughts/images) in order to express our experience compassionately and kindly
The origin of our somatic experience, how to describe it without inner or outer judgement
When a feeling is not a feeling
Empowerment through identifying self-responsibility
Expressing honesty that when shared with embodied compassion contributes to all life
Identifying and requesting that which would make your life wonderful
WEEK 3 (chapter 7)
BEING A ‘GOOD’ LISTENER
Compassionate listening and receiving - listening to ourselves and others with spaciousness and compassionate awareness for the longings that are uppermost in the present moment
WEEK 4 (chapters 8 – 10)
SELF-COMPASSION - THE POWER & ROLE OF VULNERABILITY
Hearing a 'yes' behind the 'no' - yours and the others
The relationship between the gift of vulnerability and connection
The significance of the need for mourning (grief/sadness)
The violence of 'shoulds' and 'have to's'
The relief that can come when exploring the difference between 'stimulus' and 'cause'
The role of anger and how it relates to authenticity and transparency
Moving from our habitual response to re-membering our natural response - the role of slowing down in our communication processes
WEEK 5 (chapters 11 – 13)
FREEING OURSELVES FROM OLD PROGRAMMING
Ending the paradigm of 'punishment & reward'
Befriending our inner experience
Dissolving the enemy image connected to our internal world
Moving from criticism and praise to empathic appreciation
I am leaving the content of this last class open and will design a teaching/space to support any requests from participants and also as I follow my own intuition as to what is needed at the time.
When: Thursday 11th, 18th, 25th Nov and 2nd, 9th and 16th December 2021
Time: 6.00pm - 7.30pm GMT
To support a greater sense of relaxation these classes will not be recorded. Resources from each class are posted on the resources pages after the class.
Programme Fee: £135.00
Bookings Close on the 10th of November 2021