THE SELF-COMPASSION BOOK CLUB

What You Do Or Say Next Could Change The World

RESOURCES PAGE

Here is a list of feelings.
Feelings communicate to us to what degree we are supporting our needs

Here is a list of needs
You have needs because you have a body. Your body will constantly communicate with you somatically about them 

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Here is a list of 'faux' feelings
e.g. "I feel that you" is a thought and a judgement, not a feeling

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NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION A LANGUAGE OF LIFE
AUDIO BOOK ON YOUTUBE

DISCOVERING YOUR NEEDS VIDEO

CLASS 1 RESOURCES

LIFE ALIENATING LANGUAGE

Marshall Rosenberg differentiates between language and thinking that is 'life alienating' and habitual and language and thinking that is 'life supporting' and natural.
 
Life alienating language is connected to our fight/flight/freeze/fawn natural reaction to danger.  Bringing a 'needs consciousness' to our sense of danger creates an inner warming process and supports self-care, self-connection, choice and agency.

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The human species cannot be 'punished into' a 'better' way of being in the world.

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LIFE ENRICHING LANGUAGE

Natural Giving & Receiving Through Understanding Needs


"I notice I feel because I need/long for....."

"Do you feel because you need/are longing for.....?"

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NOTICING PRACTICE
DAILY INNER WARMING PROCESS

NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION PROCESS

SUPPORTS

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SELF-COMPASSION
NEEDS AWARENESS PRACTICE 1

The intention within this practice is to grow warm self-connection.  To be with whatever is alive for us, not to change it, ie become calm, nowhere to 'get to'  but to befriend it, accompany it and intuit our needs as we do   so.

CLASS 2 RESOURCES

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CLASS 3 RESOURCES

Being A 'Good' Listener

Empathy -v- Taking An Interest

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Understanding The Physiology Related To Attachment
(our somatic experience)

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Self-Compassion Needs Awareness Practice
UNDERSTANDING

CLASS 4 RESOURCES

Self-Compassion
The Power & Role Of Vulnerability

EMPATHY When someone hears you without passing judgement on you and without trying to take
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Francis Weller
The Five Gates Of Grief
from 'The Wild Edge Of Sorrow'

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Approaching Your Somatic Experience
Needs Awareness Practice

CLASS 5 RESOURCES

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POSSIBLE CORE BELIEFS ABOUT MYSELF I am bad I’m not good enough I’ve done something wrong
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Embodiment Of Needs Awareness Practice
'Acceptance'

CLASS 6 RESOURCES

All the ways we can cultivate self-resonance and empathic connection with others

Ref: Sarah Peyton
'Your Resonant Self'

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Left & Right Brain Functions

Right brain being the centre for empathy belonging and connection


diagram ref: Sarah Peyton 'Your Resonant Self'

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The Sequential Process Response Of Our Brain To Outer Stimulus
Why slowing down and patience are two of the most important skills in self-compassion and self-resonance

Ref: Dr Bruce Perry/Oprah Winfrey - "What happened to you"

Tending To Our Pain
The relationship between needs past and needs present

Tending To Balance In Our Lives Between 'Being' & 'Becoming'

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