THE SELF-COMPASSION BOOK CLUB
What You Do Or Say Next Could Change The World
Here is a list of feelings.
Feelings communicate to us to what degree we are supporting our needs
Here is a list of needs
You have needs because you have a body. Your body will constantly communicate with you somatically about them
Here is a list of 'faux' feelings
e.g. "I feel that you" is a thought and a judgement, not a feeling
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION A LANGUAGE OF LIFE
AUDIO BOOK ON YOUTUBE
DISCOVERING YOUR NEEDS VIDEO
CLASS 1 RESOURCES
LIFE ALIENATING LANGUAGE
Marshall Rosenberg differentiates between language and thinking that is 'life alienating' and habitual and language and thinking that is 'life supporting' and natural.
Life alienating language is connected to our fight/flight/freeze/fawn natural reaction to danger. Bringing a 'needs consciousness' to our sense of danger creates an inner warming process and supports self-care, self-connection, choice and agency.
The human species cannot be 'punished into' a 'better' way of being in the world.
LIFE ENRICHING LANGUAGE
Natural Giving & Receiving Through Understanding Needs
"I notice I feel because I need/long for....."
"Do you feel because you need/are longing for.....?"
DAILY INNER WARMING PROCESS
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION PROCESS
NEEDS AWARENESS PRACTICE 1
The intention within this practice is to grow warm self-connection. To be with whatever is alive for us, not to change it, ie become calm, nowhere to 'get to' but to befriend it, accompany it and intuit our needs as we do so.
CLASS 2 RESOURCES
CLASS 3 RESOURCES
Being A 'Good' Listener
Empathy -v- Taking An Interest
Understanding The Physiology Related To Attachment
(our somatic experience)
Self-Compassion Needs Awareness Practice
CLASS 4 RESOURCES
The Power & Role Of Vulnerability
The Five Gates Of Grief
from 'The Wild Edge Of Sorrow'
Approaching Your Somatic Experience
Needs Awareness Practice
CLASS 5 RESOURCES
Embodiment Of Needs Awareness Practice
CLASS 6 RESOURCES
All the ways we can cultivate self-resonance and empathic connection with others
Ref: Sarah Peyton
'Your Resonant Self'
Left & Right Brain Functions
Right brain being the centre for empathy belonging and connection
diagram ref: Sarah Peyton 'Your Resonant Self'
The Sequential Process Response Of Our Brain To Outer Stimulus
Why slowing down and patience are two of the most important skills in self-compassion and self-resonance
Ref: Dr Bruce Perry/Oprah Winfrey - "What happened to you"
Tending To Our Pain
The relationship between needs past and needs present
Tending To Balance In Our Lives Between 'Being' & 'Becoming'