Clare O'Sullivan


Compassionate Communication Facilitator

Certified With the Centre For Nonviolenece

"We have unlearned the patience and attention of lingering at the thresholds where the unknown awaits us."

John O'Donoghue

My work is about re-sensitising humans and mediating inner experience. My intention is to support the cultivation of a way of being that makes violence less possible. It's origins began in my early years witnessing the held pain in my father which he discharged into the circle of his family.  I witnessed so much violence and have the tracks of trauma in my limbic and nervous system as a result. And so you find me here having begun the cultivation of practices that enable me to mediate my inner experience so that the ancestral trail of violence is diminished through me. These are the practices I share through my work.
I am cultivating spaciousness with my reactivity that allows me to hear what I am longing for, I see it as 'path' not 'pathology'  and it brings me choice in how and with whom I share my life, supports me to live out my 'call' fully,  and enables me to hold spaces for others to do the same. I work with individuals and groups and create spaces where self connection becomes possible through the lens of compassion and where the interconnectedness of all things, two legged, four legged and winged, become the portal through which life meets us and reveals our true essence and purpose.   

Working with compassionate tools to access your authenticity and choice

Preparing the ground for dialogue you are longing to have with  your partner, children, friends and others in your community

Understanding the language in our culture

that separates us and learning one that connects us through our hearts

Where emotional pain, grief, sorrow, anger, regret, disillusionment become harbingers of abundance as they draw you nearer to yourself, nearer to home

Becoming familiar with the precious life inherent in your reactivity

Gaining clarity about your life's purpose and gracefully embracing the perceived 'blocks' as portals to the centre of your longings


My Background

I imagine you might be looking for some letters after my name.  Some indication that I am qualified to support people with their lives. Some kind of reassurance that it's safe to access my work.  I have no letters to offer you.  What I offer is the shared reality of what it is to be human.  I offer the gifts that I have gained through many years of life, love and loss.  I have been an administrator, teacher, personal development trainer, support worker, singer, cleaner and volunteer.  I am a Certified Trainer with The Centre For Nonviolent Communication Founded by Marshall Rosenberg PhD. This was an important training for me.  I needed a 'village' to witness my compassionate growth and to check my 'blind sides' and to ensure that 'space for the other in me' was being cultivated.  My background is that I was born and raised in Southern Ireland.  My father was a violent alcoholic, and I loved him so much and wanted him to love me.  This, mostly, wasn't possible for him.

The most important thing that my journey with NVC (more than 10 years) has given me is the possibility of choice.  I am learning to mediate my inner experience and my reactions to life in such a way that I can live more fully according to the values I hold dear. I did not want to repeat the pattern of alcohol dependence and physical and emotional violence that is in my line of ancestry.  Learning to live compassionately with an understanding of my needs/longings has helped me to make sense of the grief and suffering held in my system since childhood and has made it possible for me to bring my authentic self into my relationships, more and more.   


I have had a lifelong question - what happened to my father that this was the only way he could tell us he was in pain and what could have been done to support him and to restore peace in our home? I am now dedicating my life to living and teaching the practice of empathic resonance, which in my experience is the key to peace in our times. I pray that the ancestral line of violence is diminishing through me to the best of my ability in any given moment. I am my father's daughter, I sense his passion and beauty in me. I am grateful for any resilience I may have in this life which is partly inherited from my loving mother who stayed to take care of me and my six siblings.  I sense both my parents with me every step of the way.  They did not have the resources or support they needed.  I am now resourcing myself and sharing what I am learning with you.



For any enquiries, please contact me:  Clare O'Sullivan Tel: 07534 688752 clarenosullivan@gmail.com

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