Our quest for meaning is urged upon us by our sense of life. Each person is a living world of longing. Behind your image, role, personality, and deeper than your thoughts, there is a pulse or desire that sustains you in the world. All your thoughts feelings and actions arise from a secret source within you which desires life. This is where your sense of life is rooted.
(Eternal Echoes/Exploring Our Hunger To Belong)
When I arrived for the workshop I expected to learn and share with like minded individuals, but the day surpassed my expectations thanks to the sensitive facilitation of Clare and the support team. Clare's skill at creating a warm, safe space meant the group experience was authentic allowing insight and exploration to take place at a deep and personal level. Clare's light touch and humour made sure the theme of the day (our contradictory heart) was absorbed slowly and discussion did not become too theoretical or removed from our own journey. A wonderful day that nourished and grounded me.
My first meeting with Clare was in May 2019. It was a taster session of NVC at an event and I have to say that moment changed my life. I was suffering with anxiety and panic attacks because stress and pain of the past was very much over spilling into my present. This brief introduction gave me immediate relief through the technique taught which was gentle and kind and I have to say I've not suffered since!
I have experience of individual and group sessions. I started with one-to-one sessions. I was keen to join the group offerings but needed more safety around what to expect and how my vulnerability would be met. I soon understood from being with Clare that groups facilitated by her style would hold me. I have found previously that even groups with the best intentions can have communication styles that are challenging. Clare facilitates at a pace and style that is compassionate and clear. ......the work is very rich. It feels simple but with the power to bring about so much change. I have felt shifts in how I relate to situations through exploring what I need, this has brought me relief.
THE CONTRADICTORY JOURNEY OF THE NATURE OF THE HEART
ONE TO ONE SESSIONS AND EMBODYING NVC WEDNESDAY MORNING GROUP SESSIONS
The most important thing that NVC has given me is the possibility of choice. I have learnt to mediate my inner experience and my reactions to life in such a way that I can live more fully according to the values I hold dear. I did not want to repeat the pattern of alcohol dependence and physical violence that is in my line of ancestry. Instead, I can approach the suffering I experience when life expresses itself in ways that are painful for me and soothe myself with the balm of compassion, and gently communicate with those around me, when possible, to let them know what I need for my wellbeing.
I have been integrating NVC into my life for ten years and I am a Certified Trainer with The Centre For Nonviolent Communication Founded by Marshall Rosenberg PhD. My background is that I was born and raised in Southern Ireland. My father was a violent alcoholic, and I loved him so much and wanted him to love me. This, mostly, wasn't possible for him.
I have had a lifelong question - what happened to my father that this was the only way he could tell us he was in pain and what could have been done to support him and to restore peace in our home.? I have similar questions about my cultural background. And so I am now dedicating my life to living and teaching Nonviolent Communication, which for me brings the answers I am hungry for. I have chosen a path of doing things differently to what I witnessed as a child, the ancestral line of violence stops with me to the best of my ability in any given moment. I am my father's daughter, I sense his passion and beauty in me and I am grateful for any resilience I may have in this life which is partly inherited from my loving mother who stayed to take care of me and my six siblings. I sense both my parents with me every step of the way. They did not have the resources or support they needed. I am now resourcing myself and sharing what I am learning as I go.
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